Unfortunately, to control your iPad remotely (as an IT person - to work on iPads) is not possible with a stock iPad. There is a remote tweak called Veency - but it's only available for use on jail broken iPads. Sorry.
You could use an app called Tango Remote ($4.99, USD) but its only to change/use the music controls on another device on the same network (or hooked via Bluetooth).
Someone here mentioned that there is an office app that will allow you to control other iPads for a presentation (PowerPoint, I think). Unfortunately, I don't remember the name, nor do I think that is what you are looking for.
Apple has the iPad pretty well locked down as far as allowing another device to control it, for security reasons. Yes, and unfortunately, that makes an IT job harder. But, that's all we got. Sorry.
Marilyn