I updated mine a few weeks ago, so my memory is quickly fading. I recall, in general, that it was pretty painless and intuitive.
Do you have the latest version of iTunes? I recall that this was necessary.
iPad is plugged in via USB?
I notice a procedure here:
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Hopefully, following this process solves your problems.