Is there a way to Calendar Events appear with your own preferred default options? For example, I like most of mine to remind me 2 days, and again 2 hours in advance of the event.
There is no way to do this in the Calendar app itself, however; if you sync with another calendar (say Google) you can set up to two alarms on the website, and they will sync non-default time/dates.
Only two though. If you do three then the event won't sync. Very annoying, and a problem I butted my head against several times before I figured out what whas happening.
BTW, If you do not currenlty sync your calendar, I recommend setting up a Google account to do so. it's a good safety net. No single device/compuer should ever hold all your critical information.