I like the description of this being a 'war zone'!!
I read an interesting article, referenced in this Forum, that suggested that Apple's decision not to support Flash was as a result of the way that Flash interprets 'cursor hover'. The author suggested that, on many Flash-enabled web pages, 'hovering' the cursor over a link will produce a response - such as a drop-down menu, enabling a list of, say, selectable options to appear.
Clearly, since the iPad doesn't have a cursor, the concept of 'cursor hover' doesn't really exist, so such sites would cause a problem for the iPad.
One of the Forum's frequent posters has a tag line 'Help Apple kill Flash - buy an iPad'.
Tim
Scotland
PS I agree, it *is* never the end of the story!!