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Hayles66 said:
I was on a plane. Who won?
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I was on a plane. Who won?
punkBarbie
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Hi guys, im really upset right now and need sound advice, not something that is going to make me do anything stupid. I've been up all night cuz i really dont know what on earth to do with this anymore so i hope you all can come through for me.
more than a year ago, i got into a relationship with a guy. Him and i had been friends for 3 years before that, we go to the same uni. I did not hide anything about myself to him. Told hi about my past relationships, my family and i was faithful to the weasel. Never saw anything to suggest he was psycho, although i had heard that he called his ex girlfriend the b- word at a party one . It was while we were together that i realized that he wasn't for me, i struggled with this reality for quite a bit, i hated the possibility of hurting him but i finally got the courage to let him know. I was kind about it cuz it was the right thing to so rather than staying in a relationship that wasn't right 4 either of us. A few weeks later, i went to visit family in another country. He created a fake facebook account, added my family members and would ask what i was doing, with whom, under the pretense that we were friends. During that holiday, i met some1 else and when he found out, he added this guy on facebook, pretending to have gone to high school together.
I didn't realize this strange behavior until he called me while i was with my new boyfriend who at that time was talking so his voice could be heard in the background. The guy just exploded over the phone, calling me all sorts of names and mind u i had never promised him anything in the future, even told him it wasn't necessary to stay in touch, i made sure i was honest with him.
I didn't know how to handle that particular situation, i mean I'm with my man & a crazy person decides to call and act crazy on the phone. I continued the rest of my holiday without talking to him.
We live in a very small student community so when i got back , i saw him. He asked me what went on during my holiday, i told him it wasn't any of his business, nicely still. See, im always nice. The very same day i arrived here, my boyfriend told me he had been receiving odd emails from this guy on facebook which were aimed at finding out who his girlfriend was. Fortunately he realized who was behind them and blocked them.
I was very offended by that so i confronted the guy and thats when i learnt that he had spoken to my family to keep track of me while i was away. Im still mortified by this to this day, i mean who does that?
My boyfriend got mad at me saying i was bringing rubbish into his life, my family got upset thinking i was some skank who didnt know how to handle my business.
The confrontation became explosive, i had to involve my best friend, afraid he would hurt me. He said he would ruin my boyfriend and i, that it wasn't over, quite a few threats i got. Fortunately, my friend was able to calm him down and told him to leave me alone and all that. He agreed,'apologized' & i thought left me alone. I wish i had had a way of steering clear of his path but him and i had the same classes,same group of friends, even live in the same area. I was cordial whenever i had to interact with him.
So a day ago, my boyfriend called to tell me this guy had began talking to his female friends over facebook. These ladies are complete strangers to him but he had the audacity of sneaking in an occasional question about my boyfriend in the hopes of finding out if he was involved with anyone else since him and i are in a long distance relationship.my boyfriend told these ladies to chill and watch what he says.utter humiliation on my half since all this is happening because of me.
A day ago i find out that this guy is still obsessed with my boyfriend. Checking him out on facebook, adding the girls he has on facebook as well probably to find out which one, other than me my boyfriend is sleeping with so that he can go after her as well. I dont know why he should think my boyfriend is cheating on me and even if he was, that would be between him and i. I also found out he's been telling a friend of his who seems to be endorsing this behaviour that he is sleeping with me as a way to get at my boyfriend who i quote "thought he had won" , by me i assume.so he is intent on snatching whatever girl my boyfriend may be seeing.
So there's my story.
I've been very mature about this, i've taken bullets from this guy cuz i felt he was justified since our break up hurt him. But he has crossed way too many lines and such deeds are not acceptable at all.
more than a year ago, i got into a relationship with a guy. Him and i had been friends for 3 years before that, we go to the same uni. I did not hide anything about myself to him. Told hi about my past relationships, my family and i was faithful to the weasel. Never saw anything to suggest he was psycho, although i had heard that he called his ex girlfriend the b- word at a party one . It was while we were together that i realized that he wasn't for me, i struggled with this reality for quite a bit, i hated the possibility of hurting him but i finally got the courage to let him know. I was kind about it cuz it was the right thing to so rather than staying in a relationship that wasn't right 4 either of us. A few weeks later, i went to visit family in another country. He created a fake facebook account, added my family members and would ask what i was doing, with whom, under the pretense that we were friends. During that holiday, i met some1 else and when he found out, he added this guy on facebook, pretending to have gone to high school together.
I didn't realize this strange behavior until he called me while i was with my new boyfriend who at that time was talking so his voice could be heard in the background. The guy just exploded over the phone, calling me all sorts of names and mind u i had never promised him anything in the future, even told him it wasn't necessary to stay in touch, i made sure i was honest with him.
I didn't know how to handle that particular situation, i mean I'm with my man & a crazy person decides to call and act crazy on the phone. I continued the rest of my holiday without talking to him.
We live in a very small student community so when i got back , i saw him. He asked me what went on during my holiday, i told him it wasn't any of his business, nicely still. See, im always nice. The very same day i arrived here, my boyfriend told me he had been receiving odd emails from this guy on facebook which were aimed at finding out who his girlfriend was. Fortunately he realized who was behind them and blocked them.
I was very offended by that so i confronted the guy and thats when i learnt that he had spoken to my family to keep track of me while i was away. Im still mortified by this to this day, i mean who does that?
My boyfriend got mad at me saying i was bringing rubbish into his life, my family got upset thinking i was some skank who didnt know how to handle my business.
The confrontation became explosive, i had to involve my best friend, afraid he would hurt me. He said he would ruin my boyfriend and i, that it wasn't over, quite a few threats i got. Fortunately, my friend was able to calm him down and told him to leave me alone and all that. He agreed,'apologized' & i thought left me alone. I wish i had had a way of steering clear of his path but him and i had the same classes,same group of friends, even live in the same area. I was cordial whenever i had to interact with him.
So a day ago, my boyfriend called to tell me this guy had began talking to his female friends over facebook. These ladies are complete strangers to him but he had the audacity of sneaking in an occasional question about my boyfriend in the hopes of finding out if he was involved with anyone else since him and i are in a long distance relationship.my boyfriend told these ladies to chill and watch what he says.utter humiliation on my half since all this is happening because of me.
A day ago i find out that this guy is still obsessed with my boyfriend. Checking him out on facebook, adding the girls he has on facebook as well probably to find out which one, other than me my boyfriend is sleeping with so that he can go after her as well. I dont know why he should think my boyfriend is cheating on me and even if he was, that would be between him and i. I also found out he's been telling a friend of his who seems to be endorsing this behaviour that he is sleeping with me as a way to get at my boyfriend who i quote "thought he had won" , by me i assume.so he is intent on snatching whatever girl my boyfriend may be seeing.
So there's my story.
I've been very mature about this, i've taken bullets from this guy cuz i felt he was justified since our break up hurt him. But he has crossed way too many lines and such deeds are not acceptable at all.
Mtnmedic
iPF Novice
punkBarbie said:
1) report the behavior to Facebook
2) call the cops and report this stalking behavior. They may not do much more than talk to him but at least he will know you're not afraid to sic the law on him if does anything more. But there may be a possibility they will do something, depending on the laws of your state and community.
3) if he's going to the same university, report his behavior there.
4) never, ever talk to him, acknowledge him, etc. Don't give him anything to go on. Just stay away. Hopefully your friends and family can do the same. You can't stop them from being friends with him (if any are) but they can respect your situation and realize any and all discussion about you, your current boyfriend, etc. is off-limits to him.
Obsessive "ex" folks can sometimes become dangerous. Don't roll the dice and take chances.
Michael "Spam, spam, bacon, eggs and spam. Hold the bacon and eggs." Sent from my iPad 2 using iPF
Richard Brown
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Hayles66 said:
Yup. Great and well deserved. A "Tour de Force".
Sent from my iPad 1 using iPF - Greetings
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Hayles66
iPF Novice
Mtnmedic said:
It's all on the "Everything to do with Christmas" thread, Michael. I've got the crib service at our town church at 5pm. The kids love opening one present of their choice tonight and my sister-in-law and husband are coming to spend Xmas with us tomorrow for the day.
Sent from my one and only original iPad using iPF
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