Which iOS is presently on your iPad? OTA updates from the iPad itself weren't implemented until iOS 5. If you are still on a version of iOS 4, the only way to update is through iTunes on your computer. Go to this Apple support page for instructions. http://support.apple.com/kb/HT4972
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